The world is going to deny this. It will go kicking and screaming the entire way. But I don’t care. There is no doubt in my mind that our use of cell phones has all but killed anything that might be described as fun in romantic relationships.
It isn’t that phones are inherently bad; it’s just our addictive use of them to contact the opposite sex. Yes, they are very reliable. They are instant. That is what we’re all about these days. But maybe its not what is worth having. It terrifies me to think that I can send my deepest thoughts to someone within seconds just by typing them. This is not how human interactions are supposed to work.
Forget general human interactions, let’s focus on courtship. In a courtship, no matter which gender you are, the fun is in the chase. It’s the mystery, the anticipation that brings the butterflies. It’s hoping that you’ll see that person soon, but not knowing when it will be, and being ecstatic and terrified inside when you do see them. It’s the random, unexpected encounters. It’s the joy of catching up when you see them, of telling them about that ridiculous thing that happened to you while you were at the bookstore, or walking around. It’s getting to see them in person, to see their face, to hear their voice, to hug them. It isn’t about seeing their witty words staring at you through a blue screen.
It isn’t that your words aren’t witty; I’m sure they are. It’s just that you can only get so much satisfaction out of words, especially compared to good ‘ol face to face interaction.
All you hopeless romantics that keep texting that special someone, save your sanity and your relationship and stop messaging them all the damn time. There really isn’t any anticipation in your relationship when you text the person literally 5 minutes after you see them. It isn’t exciting when you fill her in on your life in real time by text. As charming as you think you are, be serious, man. Don’t waste both of your time with a day-long text conversation. Get back to living and loving, and away from texting.
Happy Valentines Day America. Thank me later.
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